Words are like weapons, they wound sometimes. They are very powerful they can create or destroy. Generally, males are easygoing nothing really bothers them. However, like females, they too have feelings and emotions and sometimes we say things that might hurt them deeply and damage their self-esteem. At times, we may not know that we are saying things that are hurting our partners but, this article will definitely help you with that.
Below are ten things not to say to your boyfriend. I can assure you that you will find them to be very interesting. Check them out!
You are a little boy
I had to make this statement number one on this list because too often many females make the mistake of uttering these words from their mouths. It is one of those statements that suggest that he is not man enough and he needs to man up. It will severely hurt his self-esteem or self-confidence. Please do not even say it when you are joking, it’s definitely not something to joke about and he will not find it funny.
You are not good in bed
This is another thing that you should never say to your boyfriend. He may not be the best man in the bedroom but you can try to talk to him about what he can do to make things better. Instead of saying things like this, that will hurt his feelings. Be nice to him and find a better approach to deal with the situation. Sometimes it is not what you say; it is how you say it.
Stop hanging out with those guys, I do not like them
First, you are not his mother – you are his girlfriend. Therefore, you are not entitled to tell him what to do. Secondly, he is not a child, he is a grown man who is capable of choosing his own friends and maybe he has known these friends before you so please do not ask him to make a choice. If you dislike his friends then stay away from them. But, please do not ask him to stop talking to his friends, just because you do not like them. That is overly selfish and it doesn’t work like that.
I see a bald patch in your head
You may think that it is okay to point out to your boyfriend that he has a bald patch on his head but it is not okay. Men usually do not want to hear the announcement that you have found a bald patch on their head so please do not broadcast the news to them. Hair thinning is natural for men who are getting older and older but just leave it and let the man discover it for himself. Do not make a big deal out of it because it is not that of a big deal.
It is never okay to tell anyone to stop talking. Not your friends, not your family and definitely not your boyfriend. It shows that you are being downright disrespectful and this is extremely unhealthy for your relationship. If you want to have a healthy relationship then both parties need to show respect for each other. Telling your boyfriend to shut up or stop talking will send many different harmful and negative messages to him. It means that you don’t want to hear him speak and you don’t care about what he has to say. He may interpret it in many different ways and none of these ways will be positive.
You are just like my ex-boyfriend
If you do not need to talk about your ex then please do not talk about him. He was in the past, so forget about the past and look to the future with your new boyfriend. Sometimes you may want to share something from your past in order to improve your current relationship and that should be okay. Moreover, sometimes you want to find fun questions to ask your boyfriend so you bring up the past and your ex and that is okay as well. But, please do not bring up negative things from the past to mess up your new relationship. Walk straight through the door of your old relationship and concentrate on your new one. Look to the future and forget the past.
I like your friend, he is really sexy
What if he should say this to you about one of your girlfriends? Would you like it? That’s what I thought! You would not want him to say this to you so, do not say it to him. In his mind, he should be the only guy that you think about in that way. So, if it is that you check out other males then it is better not to let him know all this. Just keep it to yourself.
Wow, I have trained you well!
No, my friend, you didn’t train him. He is not a puppy, he is an adult who knows right from wrong and uses his brain to make his own decisions, so again, you did not train this man. A comment like this can negatively impact his self-confidence and self-esteem. It also suggests that you are controlling and devious. So please do not utter these words from your mouth. No one benefits from them, not you, not him.
You are getting fat and out of shape
Would you like to hear this from him? I guess not! Be sure to taste your own words before you spit them out. Women hate to be told that they are getting fat and men hate it too. That is just how life is, many people do not like to hear these kinds of statement. If you must tell him that he is getting fat, then please find a better way to tell him. Sometimes it’s really not what you say but it’s how you say it.
I do not like your Mother or your father
The relationships that parents and their children have are usually very complicated but very sacred. So do not mess with his parents. Even if your boyfriend speaks about his parents in a negative way, know your position! Do not pass your line and do not get involved. Listen to him as he speaks and give him advice if you must. But, try to remain as neutral as possible. And if you really do not like his parents then try to keep it to yourself. Sometimes it’s really better not to say anything.
So there you have it! A list of things that you should never say to your boyfriend. I know that we are all humans and from time to time we may say things that might hurt other persons. However, please remember that words are very powerful so be careful how you use them.
Susy Richards is a lovely mother of 3 girls (3 years, 4 years and 5) and a simple woman who is ready to share her priceless experience with other mommies around the world. She is an Advanced Practice Provider who passed birth doula and postpartum doula courses at Childbirth International in 2013. Susy is passionate about providing holistic care and is involved in pregnancy research currently publishing her articles concerning pregnancy on site rocketparents.com