When you are single and searching for love, it is often difficult to know if the person you are dating is really serious about wanting a long-term relationship with you or are you just being used to fill in time until something better comes along? If you have doubts in your mind, you need to ask yourself; how do I know if I am being used? Here are six tell-tale signs to watch out for:
He often postpones or cancels your dates at the last minute, or worse still does not arrange an alternative meeting time.
His moods blow hot and cold – sometimes he is loving, pay you compliments and tell you how much you mean to him and other times he’s quite cool and distant. When he’s in a good mood, is it because they are trying to get around you because they want something from you and then cooling off when they have got it?
He avoid being on his own with you. Does he always want to invite friends along when you suggest something for just the two of you or always want to be in the company of other people when you do something?
You are always being asked for favors. Does he often ask to borrow money from you? Does he ask you to give him lifts in your car? Feed the cat? Get the shopping? If he is not happy to do the same for you, then there is a good chance that you are being used.
He avoids kissing or other physical contact as much as possible. Do you hold hands, kiss frequently? These are all signs of a great relationship – if there is always an excuse to avoid getting close, this is a sure sign that things are not as they should be.
You are always there for him when he has a problem, you listen when he want to talk about his feelings and try to understand, but when it is your turn and you try to talk about how you feel or about your relationship, he tries to avoid talking about it and says that they are “confused” or “don’t want to rush anything”.
If any of these signs are apparent in your relationship – watch out! You need to look a bit deeper and make sure that this partnership is really genuine – or are you being used?