Have you noticed recently that your partner has started drinking more? Perhaps their one scotch on the rock with dinner has turned into three, or maybe they’ve started drinking earlier in the day? However they’ve changed, if you’ve noticed that your partner has started drinking more alcohol, you are most probably worried about them, as well as about the impact it’s having on your children.
A lot of parents think that kids don’t notice when something’s changed, such as one parent is drinking more alcohol, but more often than not, they do. Kids are a lot more perceptive than most people give them credit for, so if something’s going on at home, the chances are they’ll notice. Whether you and your partner are arguing more or there’s a problem with drinking, your kids will most probably notice, and the chances are it will have an effect on them.
If you’ve noticed that your partner has started drinking more than normal, it’s important to deal with the problem as soon as possible. It’s no good brushing it under the carpet because otherwise, it will only get worse. To help you partner, here’s what you need to do:
Find a time to talk to them one-on-one
The first step is to find a time to talk to them without any distractions. Perhaps one evening when the kids are in bed, the two of you could sit down and have a chat? Ideally, it’s best to talk to them at a time when they haven’t been drinking, so if they tend to drink in the evenings, pick a time earlier in the day. Choose somewhere to talk that’s private and is somewhere that your partner feels comfortable, as this will make them more likely to open up.
Explain your concerns
Don’t make the mistake of broaching the subject in the wrong way. You don’t want to be accusing because this will probably cause your partner to become defensive, and then they won’t be willing to be open and honest with you. Instead, simply explain to them in a calm manner that you are concerned for their welfare because they seem to be drinking quite a lot of alcohol.
Don’t be surprised if they brush your comments off, but hold your ground. Explain why you are concerned, such as because when the two of you went for dinner recently, they drank too much but still insisted on driving home and were swerving all over the road, scaring you and the children. Bringing up the impact that their drinking is having on the whole family is also important.
Suggest that they get help
Once they’ve admitted that perhaps they are drinking too much, the next step is to suggest that they get help. Getting help is important because as research shows, people who abuse alcohol are also more likely to try drugs and end up needing both drug and alcohol rehab. People who drink large amounts of alcohol are also more likely to become violent or abusive to their partner, so getting help is important.
The good news is that there are plenty of options for beating alcohol addiction, so there’s sure to be one that works for your partner. There are residential facilities, as well as outpatient options and counseling. It’s just a case of determining what would be more effective in your partner’s case.
If you’ve noticed that your partner has begun drinking too much, then the chances are that you’re worrying about them and the impact that their behaviour will have on your family. However, by taking note of the tips above, you should be able to effectively deal with the situation and get your partner’s back on track.