When you are out on a date with a new person it can be sometimes be difficult to tell whether he is really interested in you or not and whether he is likely to want a second or subsequent date.
There are some signs to look out for that will determine his level of interest and whether he’s likely to pursue your relationship any further.
Here are the signs to look for that will show whether your date is interested or not:
How is the conversation going?
If you are asking all the questions and your date is just answering with short, quick answers and not asking you anything or making any effort to help the conversation to flow, then that is a good sign that he is not really interested in you. On the other hand, if your date asks lots of questions and gives long, thoughtful answers, then it is likely that he’s interested in you.
Look at the body language
Usually when someone is interested in you he will have their body towards you, his body language will be open, relaxed and comfortable. He will be looking at you a lot, smiling and making good eye contact. If he’s not interested his arms may be crossed, he is not smiling much and his laugh or smile seems forced and unnatural he won’t take the opportunity to sit closer to you, his general body language looks uncomfortable and guarded.
Paying the bill
If a woman insists on paying her half of the bill, then that is a good sign that she just wants to keep it as friends so that she does not feel obligated to you. If a man tries to keep the date as cheap as possible and wants you to share the bill, that’s usually a sign that he is not interested in you.
Look at his pupils
When you are attracted to someone your pupils dilate, so look into his eyes. If his pupils are large and his eyes widen a lot when you are talking to them, then that is a good sign that he’s interested in you. If his pupils are small and his eyes are flat and unanimated, then he is quite likely not attracted to you or just bored with your company.
Reaction to touching
During the date, it is often natural to touch someone while talking, casually on the arm, back or shoulders or fingers brushing. If your date is interested in you, your touch will be welcome and he will turn their body closer to you or reciprocate by touching you back. If he’s not interested in you, then he will be repelled by your touch and will back away or become stiff and turn away from you and subtly do whatever else is needed to prevent you from touching him again.
How you part company
At the end of the date, a man, if he doesn’t offer to walk with you or keeps his distance and only gives you a quick hug when you part, then that most likely means that he is not interested. If he does walk with you and has his arm round you, holds your hand or kisses you, then that is a sure sign that he is.
Some dates will be successful, some will not, but by following these signs, you will soon learn what to look out for and whether a particular date is interested and is likely to progress any further.