As women, we tend to put a lot of pressure on our own shoulders. We feel like we have to justify if we want to be working mothers, stay at home mothers, or even not become mothers, start our own business, and the list just goes on and on.
It really is time that women realized they don’t have to justify every decision they make in their lives, and that as long as we’re not seeking to intentionally hurt anyone, then we can basically do whatever we like.
Here a few of the most common things women seem to be apologizing for and feeling guilty about. If you can relate to any of these, then I hope you know you’re not alone, but also that you don’t have to explain your life choices to anyone.
- Being Single: in today’s society, it’s generally expected that once a woman reaches a certain age that she will nothing but marriage and babies on her brain, and that if she doesn’t, then there must be a reason for it. Sometimes, though, there is no reason – except that she’s just not ready yet, or has chosen a different path for her life. If you’re currently single and are dealing with the “so, are you seeing anyone?” question from family and friends, then know that there’s nothing wrong with you, and you don’t have to explain anything;
- Setting Boundaries: whether you have to set boundaries with overbearing family members after you’ve had your first baby, or your parents inviting people to your wedding on your behalf without clearing it with you, there are many times in life where we just have to stand firm and say no. As women, we often fear coming across as mean or hurting people when we set boundaries, but as you get more used to setting them, you’ll find that things become easier and people will actually start respecting them;
- Hiring Help: this is a huge issue for so many women, and it probably comes from the fact that we’ve been shown growing up that the woman is responsible for the upkeep of the home, so even though we logically know in this day and age that this old paradigm no longer exists, we do still feel like we’re somehow inadequate if not able to be whizzing around the house with a vacuum in one hand and a saucepan in the other. You can rest assured that you’re not the first woman who’s considered using the Whizz Bond Cleaning App to get some professional help around the house, and you won’t be the last, so you have nothing to feel guilty about;
- Taking A Break: this is an especially sensitive topic for women who have children. They often feel like if they take a break, especially away from their kids, that it somehow reflects badly on them as parents and that they should want to spend every second with their children. Not only is this a highly unrealistic viewpoint, it’s unhealthy, too. Everyone needs some time to themselves, so don’t ever feel guilty for taking some much needed down time.